My Husband Has a Crazy Work Schedule and How I Deal With It

Like many moms, I’ve have a husband who is busy and works a lot. He is in law enforcement and has an odd schedule that changes often. Some days he goes to work early and other days he works from 1:00pm to 10:00pm. Yes, he works ten hour days and sometimes more with overtime.

On a typical day he is gone almost 12 hours with driving to work and back home. He only has one weekend off a month. He does get three days off during the week, which is a good thing!

This puts the responsibility of doing everything for the kids on me when he works. I like it but it does get frustrating.

So, here are some ways to deal with a busy spouse:

Don’t compare your situation with others. It’s hard to hear that a friend’s husband is home for dinner every night, or another friend can go out with her husband on the weekends. It could be better, and it could be worse. My husband does come home every night; he is not deployed in the military.
You are doing something important. Motherhood has its ups and downs. I may be doing homework with my daughter, wiping noses and changing diapers. It’s okay because someone has to do it. I’m proud of what I do. It’s just as important as a “real” job.

Ask for help when he is home. On his days off, my husband gets up with kids and takes our daughter to school. How to STay sane when your partner works crazy hoursHe will do the grocery shopping sometimes and help put the kids to bed. I’m grateful for what he does, it gives me a break.
Stay Busy. I often like to stay home because it is comfortable. Staying at home can be boring for me and the kids. I am much happier when I have things to do. I take my kids to the park, to the grandparents’ house or on a playdate.
Keep up with friends. I have friends. It’s nice to have someone to talk to and hang out with. I like my friends without kids because they are more flexible. We can have fun and not do things kid related. Of course, I love to get together with my friends who have kids. We can talk about parenting and do activities with the kids.
Don’t lose your sense of humor. It keeps me sane when I can laugh at things. I especially like laughing with my loving and hardworking husband. When it comes to parenting, marriage, taking care of the home and just being an adult, a sense of humor is what works the best!
By Erica Coghlan

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  1. Lisa Scherrer
    3 months ago

    This article is almost exactly the same as this one: https://www.whattoexpect.com/wom/family-life/when-your-husband-has-a-crazy-busy-work-life…and-you-don-t.aspx
    I’m not sure who plagiarized who, but either way, it should be put out there that someone did.

    • Francielle
      Francielle
      3 months ago

      I’m looking into this now! Talking to the author of this post now. Thanks.

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