Shhhhhh…. My Secret on Getting my Kids to LOVE Their Chores

Chores - LoveJust the other day, my kids and I had to have a heart to heart regarding the most dreadful word in their vocabulary…


No matter the ages of your kids (and maybe yourself) they probably don’t like chores.

Chores are boring, hard, time consuming and let’s face it~ no fun!

I have tried it all: chore charts, listening to fun music, dancing while doing the dishes, watching a movie in the background while organizing little things (you know the kind… they go by secret names like Shopkins, Polly Pockets, Legos, and more), promises of ice cream for getting it done… the list goes on and on and on.

After a troublesome week of getting “back on track” before school starts and admitting that mommy and daddy can’t do it all, I had to let them in on my little secret.

Chores = Love

I don’t know why I kept that secret from them for so long. I should have just spilled the beans sooner, because once I did it changed the whole tone of our conversation.

Here’s how it happened.

We were sitting around the kitchen table talking about what needed to get done and what we wanted to get done before going back to school. My nine year old threw a fit about the “chores” that needed to get done. They were simple things like make your bed, put away your laundry, and throw out your trash. You’d think the world was coming to an end.

That’s when it slipped out.

Around that table I shared that when mommy does things like the laundry, cooks, buys groceries, puts gas in the car, pays bills, and other things that really it’s a sign of my love and affection for them. I said, when I cook you a meal it’s the same as me saying “I love you.” And that the same is true for them. When they make their bed, it’s like saying “I love you, too, Mom.”

That was it.


At least for now, it’s working. When I ask them for help and to do their chores they don’t argue. Then I smile and say, “I love you!” and they smile and say, “I love you, too.” Then they saunter off to get the job done.

If you are having trouble, try rephrasing the chore conversation in your house and turn it into a matter of love. I know that it helped my kids. It might be their ages (10,9, & 5), but give it a try and see if it changes things. I know that it made a huge difference on the amount of complaining that usually tags along with getting chores done. My reluctant nine year old even noticed it!

Go ahead, tell them my little secret. I think you’ll be glad you did.
There are no happy accidents.


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